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Analyzed in unison these two sets of players emerge on the court in their tennis whites with a great sense of purpose. It is their individual desires to win this doubles match. However, coming onto the court of your life, You, as the chair umpire, are the one who chooses the doubles teams.You are the one that chooses the perspective. You call the shots.
Amongst the four players: Ego, Expectation, Reality and Spirit only four different team combinations can be matched. Neither Ego & Spirit nor Expectation & Reality can be on the same team.
So let's say that You see a potential wining combination partnering Team One - Spirit & Expectation and Team Two - Reality & Ego. Team One has the expectation that they will win. Coupled with Spirit Team One has a decent chance, however, the fine line on which Expectation balances doesn't take into account that Expectation just plain expects to win. In fact, Expectation never needed to pick up the racket prior to the game because Expectation didn't need to practice;This game was just going to come naturally. He lives from one atomic wow to the next. Yet, Spirit is on Expectation's team. The intentions of winning are still vibrant because Miracles are Spirit's forte.
Team Two, Reality vs. Ego has an equal ratio of advantage/disadvantage. Reality practices, stretches, includes core workouts and endurance training, eats nutritiously, sleeps well, but binged last night on two extra glasses of wine and an entire box of Ho-Ho's (to calm the gitters). Apparently, discovering that he was partnered with Ego made him nervous.
Ego is a natural born athelete. His father, his grandfather and his great grandfather were too. He loves how his physique is enhanced in the togs and how his trophies sparkle in his glass display cases. Ego garners a lot of attention from the crowd and lives for the apres-game stroking. Frequently, the energy and attention he commands will energetically intimidate the opponent and result in victory. Their practical power and high visibility make them the favored team.
Through a comedy of errors and misfit "miracle" maneuvers the score tied itself up. Although it wasn't pretty, Expectation, the lobber with fractionally narrow ability and quirky technique, sent a sun bound trajectory into orbit resulting in opponent retna burns to score the winning point. Reality and Ego brailed off the court with a belch wafting of hostess snack cakes, a relentless hangover, ego bruising and sun blindness unable to acknowledge their opponents win with the customary handshake.
The next day, You, as the chair umpire, decide that your perspective isn't quite optimal and teams are rearranged. Instead, today with interest in stats and performance you decide to pair up Ego & Expectation vs. Reality & Spirit. Ego & Expectation are a confident team. Ego has just had his teeth done, has systematically judged and insulted all the other players as "inferior". Expectation had his racket restrung. A winning combo.
Based on yesterday's game Spirit kept his eye open to the big picture. He knows that he can't do it himself. In close observation Spirit recognized Reality's deficit and it's root cause in pre-game gitters. Spirit knows of Reality's potential and encourages fully fortified preparations by encouraging Reality to trust in himself. Spirit encourages Reality to yield to a percentage of Expectation through visualizing a positive outcome. Although initially lured by his former partner, Ego's curb appeal, Reality recognizes the fruitless and vapid experience having partnered with Ego. Reality decides his best game will be played if focused and centered. Thanks to Spirit, Reality takes into account all his previous dedicated practice and joy of the game and concentrates it into forward moving clarity.
Ego exerts his charm to swathe the crowd with delight. His bleached teeth match the fresh soles of his new Christian Louboutins. "I should be on the pro-circut", he mutters, as he flashes a smile and flexes his bicep. The stands go wild; Their first ace of the game send Ego & Expectation into a heady bliss. As they raise their arms up in exaltation, Reality & Spirit recognize their opponents distraction and rush up to net. Their solid and consistent volleys prevent the ball from even touching Reality & Spirit's side of the court. Expectation decides to deliver his erratic but infinitely hopeful last chance flail with a lob to the heavens. Yet as he follows the ball up into the sky it is Expectation, himself who is squints directly into the sun. What worked for him yesterday backfired today. Spirit moves away from net to facilitate Reality's heard earned swoop. Reality takes center court to overhand smash the ball down the line. Ego & Expectation stand motionless and blind to their defeat. Regaining their equilibrium Ego & Expectation, after throwing their rackets, jump up and down with clenched fists by their sides demanding,"Redo, Redo, REDO!"
Spirit "gets" the big picture. Spirit coupled with the fluid, straight forward mindful Reality will always win. Decisions made with Spirit at the heart of the game benefit the majority. By surrounding ones' self with the sensations of winning ideally helps one revisit the inventory of skills necessary for the win. The ebb and flow of this subtle, energetic checks and balance system has the power to gently reveal the deficits that require cultivation in order to deliver the desired outcome. Spirit understands Ego's voracious need for attention yet also appreciates Ego's aesthetic merits; Although looking one's best raises the quotient of self love when Spirit becomes obsolete, Ego undergoes narcissistic consumption . By utilizing, tempering and refining attributes of each player illumines one's perspective towards light and love. By embracing any challenge through the watchful opportunity of Spirit, your entire perspective will shift towards fulfillment and peace sought.
In our day to day maneuvers through our court of life we all fall prey to mental mispartnering. In the work that I do as a coach, I have found that clients operating solely with the inflammation of expectation coupled with ego catastrophizes conditions, but worse, has the power to attract and cultivate toxic, victimized mindsets and outcomes. Those yearning for greater fulfillment and peace benefit by optimally balancing reality/expectation and Spirit/ego. In order for one to reveal their best game a perspective grounded in Spirit and Reality is the first step. The fundamental groundwork of appreciation and gratitude found in these two facets prepare the foundation for perfect, graceful, winning shots that benefit the whole.
Notice that with Spirit in your court you'll always win.
Ask Yourself:
How can I repartner my perspective in order for my Soul to benefit from every challenging experience?
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Julie Bowes - Certified Life Coach
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